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Weddings - those glittering, over-the-top spectacles where you say “I do” to a lifetime of love… and also a lifetime of debt. I know, I know. I’m the bad guy here. But let’s be real: if you think financial stress isn’t one of the biggest causes of wedding fights, you’re either blissfully unaware or living in an Instagram-filtered dream world where everything magically works out. And you're a girl.

Here’s the hot take you didn’t ask for: Weddings are a financial minefield that ruins more relationships than we care to admit. And I’m not talking about the "Oh no, I wanted a designer dress but now I have to settle for a knockoff" kind of stress. No, I’m talking about the existential, bone-chilling dread that comes from realizing you're about to spend several months of your income on one day—and then somehow make it all seem worth it in front of an audience that is definitely going to judge you.

Oh, and also that you get to be judged by the love of your life on what you consider expensive. Yes, for guys, it can becomes a real problem.

The Myth of “The Big Day”

First, let’s talk about that sacred Big Day fantasy. Social media has set a pretty high bar for what a wedding is supposed to look like. The idea that you must have 300 people in attendance, four different hors d'oeuvres (none of which you or your spouse will ever eat), a reception venue that costs more than your annual rent, and a bridal party that looks like it stepped out of a Pinterest board is exhausting. And don’t get me started on the dress. That dress, the one that costs more than your car payment, is somehow “worth it” because “you only get married once” (unless you're JLo, but that's another column entirely).

But guess what? The only people who think this is necessary are the ones who sell you the $500 centerpieces and the $2000 cake tastings. And even they know you’re going to have a meltdown in the middle of it all. The sheer amount of money you throw at these details can strain relationships before you even hit the reception.

Gen Z: Financially Woke, or Just Tired?

Enter Gen Z. Unlike their millennial counterparts who still feel pressured to give their “perfect wedding” Pinterest board a run for its money, Gen Z is… different. We're the generation that came of age during the financial crisis and learned the hard way that not everything is as it seems on Instagram. We’ve seen what debt does to their parents’ relationships, and we’re not about to sign up for that kind of stress.

In fact, many Gen Zers have already said “bye-bye” to the wedding-industrial complex. The unpopular opinion here?Some of them don’t even want weddings—at all. They’d rather skip the whole production and elope somewhere tropical with only their best friend and a random guy named Carlos who happens to be the officiant at their Airbnb.

And honestly? I’m here for it. The idea that you need a big, expensive wedding to prove the depth of your love is antiquated at best. You can save that money for a house (or a solid crypto investment, but I’ll leave that up to you).

"But We Have to Please Our Families!"

OK, fine. You want to make your daddy happy and wear a big white dress. Cool. I get it. Family expectations are real. But here’s the kicker: No one is going to care about your wedding in 10 years. I mean, seriously. Your cousin Karen’s kid is going to get married, and everyone will forget that your wedding even happened, or at best, they’ll only remember your uncle’s awkward toast and the fact that someone “accidentally” threw the bouquet into the ceiling fan.

Wedding drama often boils down to family, and no amount of Pinterest planning can prevent the fact that your mom might have an opinion about everything from your flower arrangements to the fact that you decided not to invite your second cousin’s ex-husband (and honestly, that’s valid).

So, here’s the thing—financial stress is not a one-time issue. The debt you rack up on your wedding day will echo into your marriage. There’s no magical “we paid off the wedding loan” moment. You’ll still have student loans, mortgages, and the inevitable "Should we get a pet?" debate to worry about, or in my case, "Can we even afford kids?". And while you’re at it, let’s add up the cost of a honeymoon that’s “totally worth it” for Instagram stories, but maybe not for your bank account.

The Truth About "Starting Your Life Together"

Weddings are sold as a symbolic moment where two people come together and start their life together. But let me drop a little truth bomb on you—the real life you’re starting together is going to involve credit card bills, mortgage talks, and whether or not you’re okay with buying cheap towels from Target.

That’s the part no one wants to talk about. Not everything about a wedding is magical; some of it is work.

My Controversial Take: Elope and Save Yourself the Headache

Look, I know some of you are clutching your pearls right now. “But weddings are tradition! They're the most important day of your life!” OK, Karen, but here's the real tea: Weddings are, at their core, just a big party. And yes, it’s a party that might mark a beautiful chapter in your life, but it’s still just a day—one that’s often defined by how much money you spend. You can save that cash, book a flight to Bali, and be way happier and less stressed. If you can make it through a spontaneous elopement with your partner without throwing hands, then that’s the real test of your relationship.

So, before you drain your savings for an elaborate wedding to prove you’ve “made it,” ask yourself this: Is this about your love, or about living up to societal expectations? If it’s the latter, maybe it’s time to rethink your plans.

As for me? I’ll be sipping margaritas at your destination wedding, congratulating you on both your marriage and your financial wisdom. And if you need a wedding planner—well, I know a great couple who just eloped. They’re doing just fine.

Final Word: Your Wallet Will Thank You

So, go ahead—cancel the $10,000 wedding, and spend that cash on something real, like a future together where you don’t spend years arguing over who paid for the venue. After all, your marriage will (hopefully) last longer than that one day, so why not start it on the right financial foot?

Elope. Save money. Stay married longer. You're welcome.

What do you think? Would love to hear your thoughts. (And no, I’m not sorry for being brutally honest.)

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