Escapism, But Make It Fashion

Good evening, graduates of the grid. I guess some of us who grew up on Instagram are officially old enough to be the class of “I’m fine, at least I look fine on the feed.” The alumni of late-night overthinking and mid-morning contour. The ones who have mastered the art of applying blush over burnout and mood boards over messy feelings.

Therapy? That's for losers. We like to post stories instead.

If I had to sum up our generation’s coping mechanism in one image, it wouldn’t be crying in front of our moms or friends - it would be a carousel. The curated, color-corrected carousel of moments that whisper, See? I’m okay. We used to escape into books or movies or wine-fueled chats with best friends. Now, we escape into a version of ourselves. Or rather, into a feed that pretends to be ourselves.

Somewhere between #hotgirlsummer and “just vibing,” we learned to make performance our personality.

Mirror, Mirror on the Feed: Do I Look Like I’m Okay?

Breakups? getting a C? Being fired? All are okay as long as we look okay. Instagram is no longer just a gallery, it’s a mirror. A warped one, like the kind in dressing rooms where your body looks vaguely unfamiliar and your self-esteem a bit blurrier.

We don’t ask “How am I doing?” We check how we’re looking. Does this outfit say “unbothered”? Does this caption scream “recovered”? Has anyone noticed I’ve been posting a lot more lately, or maybe that I haven’t posted at all?

We tailor our identities like we tailor our clothes, cut to flatter, cropped to conceal. You want vulnerable? You get a black-and-white close-up with an ambiguous caption like “Some storms don’t come to disrupt your life, but to clear your path.” Which storm? Don’t worry about it, no one's asking anyway, and nor should you.

Self-worth is now algorithmic. It refreshes in likes, resets with saves. And every time we tweak the grid, we’re trying to convince someone, maybe even ourselves, that we’re fine.

The Higher the Heels, the Deeper the Denial

I remember a friend telling me:

Whenever I feel my life falling apart, I dress like I’m about to meet Anna Wintour.

Another once said:

If I look expensive, my problems can’t afford me.

We laugh, but only because we know it’s true.

Fashion has always been a form of protection. A shield. A statement. In this case: I’m not a mess, I’m a vibe. But when your shoes are louder than your voice , something’s off.

We post “✨healing” while eating takeout in bed in the same hoodie from three days ago. We post vacation photos with “new beginnings,” hoping our just broken-up situationship reads it.

Runway metaphors help: life’s a walk, confidence is your heel, your problems are backstage. But what if the show never ends? What if you’re always “on”? That's what Instagram has made it like.

Retail Therapy: Because Real Therapy’s Booked Till November

We don’t say “I’m struggling” anymore, we think, our 'gram needed this.

The internet taught us that a lot of likes and comments can fix heartbreak. That a new story can walk you out of a depressive episode. That if you can’t change your mood, change your look.

But has that made us allergic to admitting pain?

Was it when Carrie Bradshaw wrote about heartbreak but never really healed from it - just swapped men like Manolos? Was it the way Sex and the City glamorized loneliness, then put it in Dior? Or maybe it’s more recent, when self-care became a $10 billion industry, but not a conversation.

We tell ourselves, “Everyone’s going through something.” Oversharing is cringe, overcompensating is cool.

Thoughts from the Fitting Room

So, dear classmates of curated chaos...

Maybe it’s time to close the app, not just the tab. To remember that the best “fit” isn’t your outfit, it’s how you fit with yourself. That it’s okay to fall apart, even if your eyeliner doesn’t.

And if you must escape - make it fashion, yes. But make it honest, too. To yourself - not to your followers, because that's all that matters.

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